Over the past weeks, I’ve been watching my housemate deal with some serious stuff.
Dude has a drinking problem, first and foremost. I’ve come home and he’s offered me a Busch. He doesn’t say “Do you want a beer?” He says, “Do you want a Busch?” And then he jokes that it’s probably not expensive enough for my tastes. Which, it turns out, is true in practice, but I say, “No, thanks, I don’t feel like a beer.” And he says, “It’s the last one, so if you want it…”
“How many beers have you drunk tonight?”
“The other four, and this one.” He holds up the can.
So five a night. I got to the point where I’d accept his beer just so he couldn’t drink it. He’s not violent or unruly or anything. He’s just alcohol-fried. He’ll be saying things to you where he never says the predicate. He’ll just start talking about something that’s going on, as if we’d already been conversing about it for the past ten minutes. And this is when he’s sober. He actually gets a bit more lucid when intoxicated.
For a while, he was begging money off me all the time. He always paid it back, because he had work. It was two bucks for bus fare because the bank was slow or whatever, and so no big deal. Then he wanted to get ten, because [insert rational rehearsed, reason, presented as a linear story he wouldn't let me interrupt here]. At fifteen I said, “I’m lending you money so you can buy groceries, bus fare, that kind of stuff.”
One day I was headed out, so he asked if I could take him up the hill to the store to get cigs. I gave him a lift, and when we got there, he said, “Hey, man, could you loan me for…” And I stopped him and said, “What’s your brand?” Newport Menthols. (ick). I bought him two packs of Newport Menthols and said, “That’s it. My gift to you. No more loans.”
He did ask once after that, so he could get a TV. Dude can’t buy food or medicine because he’s buying beer, and he wants a loan for a TV.
At some point he cut his arm, and let it get infected. And it’s infected in the kind of place that makes me think that maybe he’s using a needle, but I don’t want to say it out loud, ever. But it got infected, and so he couldn’t work as many hours, and of course he doesn’t have medical insurance. I relented so he could get antibiotics. So he’s on antibiotics, and drinking beers. That wound healed up eventually, but there’s another one almost exactly like it in his hand now.
He told another housemate that I was helping him with it. That he has to repack the wound three times a day, and I was helping him do it. Which, of course, I’m not. And today he told me that the other housemate was helping him with it. He should be going to the doctor’s office for this, but he can’t afford it.
He’s already been told to hit the road by the landlord, but she’s had pity on him because of his hand. Which became infected after he got told to hit the road.
Here’s a guy who has fallen through every crack possible to fall through, I’m pretty sure. And who, it seems, must gamble on infection in order to keep a roof over his head.