December 13, 2005
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I just wrote something in a comment to FemmeDeLaCreme, and I thought I’d repost it here, so I can keep track of it.
She asks about how to identify the true gentlemen, and here’s my answer:
There’s one thing to know about men: Men are pigs. Men want to get in your panties, and they’ll lie, cheat, and steal to do it. They’ll put on airs; they’ll wear a tux and a tie, they’ll open the door for you, take you to a fancy restaurant, leave you with a peck on the cheek on the first date, treat you well, call you, tell you how wonderful you look, and complement your cooking. But he wants in your panties. He might not tell fart jokes, and he might not have dirt under his fingernails, and he might not ask you for your half of the bill, and he might not be indiscreet, but he really only wants into your panties.
There is no such thing as a gentleman. There is only integrity and kindness, and the trappings of gentlemanly ways are a distraction from this. The gentleman is a facade. It’s a story that appeals to women, like the ‘hooker with a heart of gold’ appeals to men. The gentleman is, as they say, a class act.
This isn’t to say that there aren’t any good men who are also gentlemen. It’s just that not all gentlemen are good.
The term ‘gentlemen’ comes from a rather abrupt class distinction that still exists in English society (and here in America, too, but it’s not so meaningful in our less-stratified class structure). In that meaning of the term, a gentleman is a man of the aristocracy. He’s expected to behave in a certain way, because the fate of families and fortunes, kingdoms and nations depend on it. Indiscretion or insult would mean doom. Or at least, that’s the idea. But again: This gentleman wants what’s in your panties, too. And discretion doesn’t mean an absence of freak. It just means freak in a big fancy hotel where the maitre’d gets a big huge tip to keep his mouth shut.
Comments (4)
i’m not interested in being with a woman who doesn’t want me to get in her panties … she acts as though men invented sex
I have somewhat differing views from you (although I do see where you are coming from) but I liked this! Thanks for taking the time to think about it, and post it.
Actually, after thinking about it, I think I was thinking more long-term. What makes someone a “permanent” gentleman? I mean, AFTER he’s already gotten into my panties? Say I’m dating a nice guy, we get into each other’s pants, and then continue on in a relationship. What kind of person would I be with, if I said that my guy was a “true gentleman”. I didn’t really mean the casual “courtship” kind of gentleman. I meant someone who is just THAT WAY all the time.
This is one of the best posts I’ve ever read on Xanga.
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